Forty-two

I'm forty-two today. When did that happen?

Today is my forty second birthday. Wow. I sit here and wonder “How am I 42?” Even now, with the responsibilities that say I’m an adult carrying on in the background (laundry, dishwasher) I’m still trying to figure this out. Forty-two.

Where did the past 42 years go?

It was just yesterday I was trying to ride my bike down the hill at my Grandmother’s house, hitting the rut that caused me to go over the handle bars every single time. At 15, I was traipsing around Europe with my friend April, paying homage to Jim Morrison in Paris and listening to a brand new band called Gun’s N Roses.

Forty-two.

Wasn’t it just yesterday I logged into a chat room and met a cute boy who wanted to email me and would propose 10 months later. I mean, I just gave birth yesterday, didn’t I?

Forty-two.

It’s not that I have anything to complain about. My life is good. I have a loving family and friends, a roof over my head, and can pay my bills. But I’m thinking of what this age is supposed to mean in the general scheme of this thing we call life.

During morning carpool, I was wondering if there would be any deep profound thoughts I could share, or would even want to share. Thoughts that would make you “Yes! She gets it. This woman has wisdom and has learned from her years.” But there is nothing profound. There is only acceptance: I am a forty-two year old woman. I’ve had my share of ups and downs, experienced heartache, loss, and have loved, and been loved, deeper than I ever thought possible.

Maybe it’s because there is so much going on that is fresh and new in my life. We’re building a house, my husband changed careers, The Kid started high school, I started working for global digital marketing agency, and am opening my own agency (with amazing partners), Kült Digital. It’s all so new; I feel like a toddler who’s taking his tentative steps, wobbly, knowing if I land, there will be cushioning. (I also have the rear of a forty-two year old woman, there’s plenty of padding.)

Is that it? Is the secret to forty-two knowing you can take all of this on and things can still be shiny and brand new. Yet this time, if I falter, I know that no matter what’s thrown my way, I’ll still come out a better person on the other side?

I don’t know. What I do know is this lessons I’ve learned. The code I live by, personally.

1.  If you work really hard, and are kind, amazing things will happen.

2. Be nice. If you can’t be nice, butt out.

3. It’s not your place sit in judgment. Ever.

4. Life may throw you lemons. Cut them up and toss them in a glass of sweet tea.

5. Sleep is more important than work.

6. Dust bunnies are probably the monsters under your bed.

7. You can’t do it all, but you can keep trying.

8. Don’t give so much of yourself that you have nothing left for you.

9. Make those phone calls you’ve been dreading.

10. The laundry can wait.

11. Taking care of yourself is the most important thing you’ll ever do.

That’s it. It’s simple, and pretty much how I live my life. This is forty-two. It’s a number, written in the sand. Grain by grain, it will blow away until it’s gone this time next year.

Sunday Mornings

Just My Type Coffee Mug

I’ve been sitting here wondering what it would look like if I created a day just for me. A day where the only thing I did was take care of my body, heart and soul. How would I plan it? Would there be a list? The pressure to make it “perfect” and to not sit back and relax without a care in the world is a fine line I’m having difficulty walking. This is what I want for my Sunday mornings. Not a full day, but a few hours of quiet solitude.

This has been on my mind for sometime, as I’ve had a secret (now public) Pinterest board I’ve been populating with my ideal Sunday mornings. Looking over it now, I realize the majority of the pins involve books, coffee, lush bedding/throws and filtered light to make everything look soft and romantic.
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I really am predictable. From one marketer to all of the others, you have me in your pockets. Show me these photos and I’m going to buy your stuff. You’ve won. Your products are a vintage film star and you’ve smeared vaseline on the lenses to give them that soft look of idyllic romance.

This is me shaking my head right now, staring at my  Just My Type Porcelain Mug while I sit in my bed. Next to me, on my nightstand, is my iPad, a dozen books, the newspaper, hand lotion and eye cream. I’m looking for my glasses, but they’re not on my head — so I’m pretty sure I left them on my desk. They’re the only thing missing.

Just My Type Coffee Mug

What’s missing from my Pinterest boards is the chair covered in clothes, the suitcase at the foot of the bed, the fan every woman of a certain age has cooling her, and boxes I’m in the middle of packing for our upcoming move. There are also clothes hangers on the door knob, and a certain number of dust bunnies setting up residence. Dust creates haze, so we’ll call them a bonus. (Sometimes, you just have to give in to the little buggars.)

Sunday mornings. While not Pinterest perfect, it’s my creation and I’m pretty darn content.

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Great Ideas

Do you ever have great ideas in theory? I have them all the time, these great ideas. Like driving for three hours to an all day event after three hours sleep and back home that evening.

This is me on exhaustion. I’m silly tired.

Great ideas. In fact, I’m trying to sit here and collect my thoughts to make sure this blog post isn’t a rambling mess of incoherent thoughts and actually write something worth reading.

I should start by telling you what I’ve been up to, which is as good of place as any in my opinion. First things first, I’ve gone back to work for KGB Global as their Senior Director of Business Development. What? This is what happens when you try to leave the social media world (for work) and it drags you back kicking and screaming.

That’s not the only news, as there is something else coming down the pipeline I’m not at liberty to announce just yet. Let’s just say I’ve been a busy bee.

My book is moving along as well. I’m participating in NaNoWriMo again this year, mainly because I’ll need to write close to 1,700 words a day to complete the challenge and there’s no time for editing. Which means it will be an ugly piece of work, but that’s why you spend a lot more time editing than you do writing.

(I’m pretty sure I won’t complete the challenge for the 5th year running, but that’s another story for another day.)

Facebook is STILL off my phone. Can you believe that? It’s been a while and I’m reaping the benefits. Mainly those of people who are terrified of leaving their house because they might touch something, or have to talk to people.

On the home front, or shall I say “home building front,” we’re moving right along. Our pre-drywall inspection is this Friday and when I drove by yesterday I saw the electrician working. I’m counting down the days until I can decorate my office and set up the kitchen. Who am I’m kidding? What I’m really looking forward to is wearing socks and sliding across my brand new hardwood floors. WHEE!

I’m quite serious about running across the floor and sliding. The Kid and I stopped recently to pick up something to drink and I blew my straw paper at him. He giggled and said “mom, you’re just a kid at heart.” I think that’s been my best great idea recently, to not take things so seriously. It’s such a relief.

Tell me about your great ideas in the comments!

5 Things You Can Do to Make Your Home Feel More Like Fall

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Autumn is my season. Summer sunshine is fading into cooler evenings, leaves crunching underfoot, vivid colors, and scents unique to this time of year foster a strong sense of nostalgia I start longing for in early August. There are a few things I do to prepare and welcome the arrival of the season and will hopefully help make your home feel more like fall.

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1. Smell. I associate so much with fragrance. Scent creates an impression on us which is hard to forget. In fact, 73% of people think aroma and smell matters most in the home during fall. During autumn I prefer to bring in the smells of pumpkin, burning leaves, sandalwood and caramel. Nothing too sweet, so I normally have two fragrances going at once to balance things out.

Currently, I have a firewood candle burning to mimic a real fireplace. The seductive dance of scent is lingering in my house, and dancing in my nose.

2. Taste. The tastes of fall are spicier, earthier, and linger on the tongue. Flavors like cinnamon, ginger, sage, nutmeg, and pumpkin are found everywhere. My favorite thing to do is slice some fresh ginger in a cup, add a green tea bag, and steep. You can top with honey, but I prefer to drink it as is. It’s warming and soothing, the perfect indulgent treat after a long day.

3. Sight. Bring in autumn decorations. Pumpkins. Gourds. Add a new bouquet of flowers. Replace the wreath on your front door with a grapevine wreath filled with faux leaves.

4. Touch. Soft throws come out of the linen closet and drape the back of my sofa and rocking chair for these cooler months. I curl up with a good book, my tea, and let the breeze cool my home. Even on the days that it’s 80 degrees here, at least the sight of the my knit blankets and throws invites the look of fall in.

5. Sound. Open the door or a window or take a walk to listen to birds singing, leaves crunching under your feet, crisp breezes blowing through the trees.

The Charlotte “Boo-Tox Bash” is October 30 — Hosted by Dermatology, Laser & Vein Specialists of the Carolinas

"Boo-Tox" Bash at Dermatology, Laser and Vein Specialists of the Carolinas

Disclosure: This post was not sponsored, but I’m pretty sure my friend Marcia will bestow lots of love and kisses upon me for sharing.

Dermatology, Laser & Vein Specialists of the Carolinas will hold its 7th annual “Boo-Tox” Bash on Thursday, October 30, at its Charlotte office located at 1918 Randolph Road, Suite 550 from 9:00 a.m. until 7:00 p.m. What is a “Boo-Tox” bash? Well, it’s your chance to try Botox or Xeomin injections for the first time, or if you’re an old pro, to save some money while supporting a good cause. To add to the fun, staff members will be dressed in costumes, and the office will feature a ‘spooky’ decor. Patients are welcome to dress up for the fun or the confidentiality!

"Boo-Tox" Bash at Dermatology, Laser and Vein Specialists of the Carolinas

At the “Boo-Tox Bash,” a Botox® or Xeomin® injection will cost only $8.99 per unit, compared to the regular price of $14. Anyone who brings a friend who buys at the same time will pay just $8.00 per unit for each. Do you hear the wheels in my head spinning? I’m calculating what it would cost to relax my Crowe’s Feet and forehead lines.

Botox injections have grown increasingly popular in the U.S. with more than 6.1 million   performed in doctors’ offices in 2012, and men a growing part of that number. In fact, the decade of 2000 – 2010 is referred to as the “Brotox Decade” with the use of Botox by men increases 258%, according the American Society of Plastic Surgeons. Furthermore, Botox Cosmetic was the most popular cosmetic treatment chosen by men in 2010 — beating both hair restoration and liposuction — treatments historically more popular among the male population.

But what about the risks of discounted Botox deals I’ve read about in the news? This bash is different. Patients are encouraged to call and schedule in advance. (Walk-ins are welcome as available.) Five board-certified staff physicians will be on hand to perform services. You’re not being injected by someone at a party in a home, you’re still in a medical setting and will be treated as if you had set up an appointment during normal business operating hours. Clinical and spooky at the same time!

With my birthday coming up in a few weeks, I am fully aware I’m a woman of a certain age. Yes friends, I’m (sort of) mid-life and proud of it. However, I’m also quite aware that’s it’s almost time to start doing a little extra maintenance on my face. Yet, I’ve always been put off by the cost, so I did a little research and found out people no longer need view non-surgical cosmetic treatments as a frightening experience or be afraid of the cost. During this event, women – and men – can visit the office for a one-stop day of beauty, purchasing services at substantial discounts and having them performed during the same visit.

Proceeds:

A portion of proceeds from this year’s event will benefit both The Purple Promise Foundation, to end melanoma http://www.purplepromise.org and Stand Up To Cancerhttp://www.standup2cancer.org.

Appointments:

For more information or to make an appointment, clients should call 704.375.6766 or visitwww.carolinaskin.com/bootox. All specials must be pre-paid over the phone or in person on October 30th.The expiration date for all services purchased is March 31st, 2015. Credit for any specials purchased is non-transferrable.

“Boo-Tox” Bash Specials:

New this year, are free varicose and spider vein screenings, by appointment only. http://carolinaskin.com/veintreatments.asp

Those buying fillers will save $100 when they buy one, $200 when they buy two and $300 when they buy three with pre-paid pricing. These include Restylane®, Radiesse®, Voluma® and Belotero®.

Clients will also get special pre-paid pricing on miraDry ®and CoolSculpting®, include personalized CoolSculpting ® consultations. http://carolinaskin.com/ CoolSculpting.asp

About Dermatology, Laser & Vein Specialists of the Carolinas:

Dermatology, Laser & Vein Specialists of the Carolinas was Charlotte’s  first Mohs Surgery Center when it opened in 1990 and  remains the busiest Mohs Surgery practice in the area.  Now with their team of board-certified physicians, DLVS offers additional services, including face lifting surgery, blepharoplasty (eye lifts), laser hair removal, laser skin resurfacing, endovenous laser ablation, sclerotherapy, tattoo removal, laser resurfacing and many fillers. There is also a medical aesthetician on staff who performs skin care and facial treatments, and several lines of skin care products are available for sale.  The practice also offers the most advanced treatment options available for general dermatology, skin cancer, varicose veins, laser surgery and cosmetic surgery. Physicians are in the office every day and personally perform or directly supervise all procedures done in the office. For more information visit: www.carolinaskin.com/Bootox or call 704-375-6766.

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