Today is our fourteenth wedding anniversary. A few years ago, had you asked if we would still be here today, the husband and I would have told you “we’re not sure.” It’s easy to love someone. Love is easy. Marriage, on the other hand, is a lot of work. It takes patience, determination, a sense of humor, and constant reminders that you and the other person are human beings and riddled with flaws.
When we get married, we walk into it with rose colored glasses. Our marriages will never be like our parents, friends, co-workers, etc. Our images of marriage, more often than not, are ones of bucolic bliss, with a beautiful hazy filter softening the edges and making it look like the most picturesque setting imaginable. When in reality, there are times it looks like a bomb went off, leaving every man to fend for himself.
Confession: I can be a little high maintenance. I’m sure you had no idea (Ed note. Lisa enjoys sarcasm). My husband can appear to be a little closed off and aloof. He’s an INTJ, whereas I’m an INFP. He’s a thinker, I’m a talker. That’s right folks, I want to talk about whatever the issue at hand is until we’ve beaten it, burned it, buried it, dug it up, and then we start over from the beginning to do it all again. Have I mentioned I’m also always right? (Ed. note: more sarcasm) If I’ve not, you should know I am. And I’m going to let you know I’m right, over and over again.
There’s no wonder some of those bumps in the road rattled our fillings out.
Neither of us are perfect, but along the way we’ve learned a few things. We’re still learning. You see, while our marriage is growing and changing, we are too. People don’t stay the same and being cognizant of that fact is important. If you’re so rigid you can’t, or won’t change, you, nor your marriage, will grow. At least, that’s what I’ve learned.
Happy Anniversary, Husband. While it’s not been easy, I certainly wouldn’t have wanted to travel this path with anyone else.