I have a girlfriend who just went through a breakup. It wasn’t a bad breakup, but one caused by selfishness over distance. She is heartbroken. How is that? It was “mutual”. He didn’t want distance, but didn’t want to move. He also wanted his freedom on the weekends to party, see friends and do what have you since he no longer was required to work those days. What else was she to do?
Long distance relationships are difficult at best, but can be successful. I met my husband in a chat room 11.5 years ago. We are getting ready to celebrate our 10th anniversary this coming month. He lived in Washington, DC and I lived in Western, NC. It was an odd mixture, but one we realized that we wanted to work. Our long distance love was to continue for 19 months.
It’s not for everyone. Some people can’t be in a relationship without everyday closeness. However, what are they missing out on if they love someone, but aren’t willing to make sacrifices? She is a single mother with two children, both in school. He is a single man working for a major hotel chain with the opportunity to move at anytime. The distance? Two hours.
You tell me. If he loves her, the way he says he does, would he be texting her to say he wants to take her on a romantic trip, but not dating. Would that be classified as a hook-up? My take on it? If it sounds like a hook-up, it probably is a hook-up.
Therefore, I will support my friend. Late night phone calls, coffee out and a shoulder to cry on when she needs it. She deserves better than a hook-up relationship.